Archive | March, 2014

I Spy With My Little Eye…

15 Mar

*rolls eyes* It seems the drama never ends…If it’s not 1 thing, it’s another. 

A friend had a problem with something that happened almost 4 years ago. There is a group of 4 of us. The issue had nothing to do with the other 3 of us, but the friend was complaining about it to all 3 of us. We all pointed out that the issue could’ve been soooo much worse than it was. Ok, the issue could’ve not happened at all, but it definitely could have been worse. Well, said friend didn’t want to hear that, got mad at the other 3 of us, said friends 3 best friends in the world. Drama ensuing. Now, said friend is in a fight with the other 3 of us…well sort of, at least 2 of us anyway. Said friend hurt all 3 of our feelings on this, & when brought to said friends attention, said friend got pissed & tried to act like said friend was the bigger victim in all this. Mind you, said friend was yelling at the other 3 of us about how said friend didn’t want to hear what we were saying, & that all said friend wanted was support from us. Last time I checked, we were giving support. It might not have been what said person wanted to hear, but (& I can’t speak for other friends) I am tired of holding said friends hand through the scary parts of life if you will. Sometimes, you just have to rip the band aid off all at once, & deal with the pain of the moment, then let it go! Said friend almost immediately apologized to 1 friend, then, after a session worse then trying to pull teeth, sort of apologized to me-but with stipulations. Said friend said sorry, BUT went on to make said self the bigger victim in all this. Granted, ok, yes, it did happen to said friend, but noone was harmed, noone was injured (feelings not being part of that, but those are easy enough to remedy). The other friend in the group, said friend gave more yelling to, then hasn’t talked to friend since. That friend even tried being the bigger person & actually apologized to said friend, but said friend has been ignoring that friend. 

This has been 1 huge headache that the 3 of us never wanted. And if the tables were reversed, said friend would say the same thing, plus to get over it to any one of us. AND said friend would say it very rudely. Said friend has texted me a few times since this all went down. I really hate to say this, but I don’t know what to do, or what I want to do about this situation. On the 1 hand, me & said friend have been friends for a very long time. On another hand, said friend can be very ‘loud’ if you will…overbearing really isn’t the right word. With said person, its like a contest-sometimes, it’s who’s suffered more, sometimes it’s who’s the bigger b***h-it just depends on who said friends hanging out with, & even still, sometimes that doesn’t necessarily mean said person will act a certain way. Said person is different around different people. Not to mention that said person has to always be right, always has to 1 up you.

I don’t want to go into all the bad things & quirks I have. I am trying sooo hard to be positive & stay away from being negative right now, but it is so hard right now. In light of everything, I am torn. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to make more waves (said friend can be kind of tempermental), but I don’t feel like I should let this sort of thing keep happening & keep on babying said person. I feel like I keep changing myself to be around said person, keep on letting things slide that said person wouldn’t let slide if the tables were turned. I am getting awful tired of all this pussy footing around. With my other BFF’s, if something is bothering any of us, we can go to each other, & tell each other whats wrong & what’s bothering us, get it off our chest, work through it like mature adults & move on. With said friend, I don’t feel like it’s like that at all. Friendship is a 2 way street, not a 1 way street. With said friend, I feel like it’s a 1 way street, said friends way, or the highway-if said friend doesn’t like what your saying, said friend will either cause huge drama like this, or ignore you. What should’ve been an easy decision & solution has turned into almost 2 weeks of drama now, & we’re not even done yet. I don’t want to loose a friend, but I feel I have to stand up for what I believe in & what I feel…said friend does that all the time. 

Please wish me luck that this will all get worked out easily & as painlessly as possible…with a happy ending as well!>